I see it a lot around me. Friends and clients who go about their lives being guided by beliefs they have about themselves and the world. Those beliefs shape their desires, their choices and their life. And when they struggle with something – their relationship, their job, motherhood, or other things – they try to fix that on a level different than where the problem arises.
And this is because they don’t see the true core belief with which they’re creating their lives. They call in the help of coaches, experts, friends and they all help in the best way they can. But many of them lose themselves in the illusion of superficial day-to-day associations. Meaning that the beliefs with which my friends and clients shape their lives are too unconscious to easily uncover. You have to see through the illusion of (non-verbal) behavior, associations, words, and actions and look beyond to what’s underneath.