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When you have a busy day or busy days because of work or children it oftentimes happens that we keep going while disregarding our feelings. We don’t always have time to sit down and feel what we feel. Work needs to be done, children need to be fed, dogs need to be walked or just things need to be done.

That’s why, at the end of almost every day, I sit and feel during which parts of the day I felt confused, insecure, frustrated or whatever.

I used to forget those moments by losing myself in something, like tv, Netflix, chocolate or just common “business”. I didn’t feel the need nor the desire to sit with my “negative” emotions. I’de rather watch other people go through drama (aka Netflix) instead of giving space to my own.

By ignoring those moments I ignored my inner guidance system, and my limiting beliefs asking for love and attention. Because our emotions are a reflection of the beliefs we hold. So whenever we feel something that we call “negative”, it’s a limiting belief showing itself.

So giving ourselves time to think and feel back on our day is important. Because during a busy day we’re always looking ahead of ourselves. We’re often times desiring to be somewhere else or doing something else. But we don’t want to go through our day without noticing ourselves.  It’s about noticing ourselves completely and fully.

The most important aspect of NOT taking the time to do this is ignoring our inner guidance system. Our negative emotions are signals to us that we’re believing something that isn’t true for who we really are. Those emotions are signaling to us that we are not, at this moment, believing and thinking in alignment with our true self. It’s a never-ending interaction between our “outer” world and our “inner” world.

Those two worlds are the same but are manifested in a different way. But they are always connected with each other. So if we find ourselves in a certain situation or circumstance that makes us feel a certain way, it’s an invitation to dive within and see what it is we’re believing about this situation that isn’t true for who we are.

More importantly, by doing so we can uproot old beliefs and pains so they no longer will be manifested in our “outer” world, as our “outer” world is a reflection of (and connected to) our “inner” world. So if we skip all these invitations to uproot limiting beliefs, they will find their way into our “outer” world.

As we have free will we can choose whether or not to listen to our feelings and turn within or to not to do so. Whichever choice we make, it’s okay as it is. For years, I’ve chosen to ignore those feelings. For years, I didn’t take the time to sit and be with those negative emotions and to see what it is within me that needs my love and attention. But that doesn’t have to be you. Now, I choose differently and I want to invite you to do the same.

So here’s my almost daily ritual at the end of the day (in short).

  • I think and feel back to certain moments where I felt some “negative” emotions.
  • I ask myself what I resent about that moment, what grudge I hold against that moment, situation, person or experience. Because almost always that’s the case.
  • I feel those emotions.
  • I accept my feelings as my own and as a reflection of the beliefs I hold about that situation.
  • I think back to other moments in my life where I’ve felt the same. And where I’ve been invited as well to turn within.
  • I know for myself that these situations are perfect as they are. They are perfect as they are reflections of me. They are perfect because they mirror parts of myself that desire my love and attention.
  • This way I get to shine my light on that part through love.

By doing this, those so-called “negative” moments, become moments to look forward to. Because every time we get to love more of ourselves. This may not be easy at first because it’s not for nothing we’ve been avoiding these feelings. But it’s so worth it.

We will experience that it’s not scary to feel our deepest feelings. We will experience that we can go beyond our mind’s labels of those emotions and to feel the energy within us. We can feel the power residing within and breathe through and with it. We can shed conditioned layers and move through them and to our deepest core.

Such a profound effect does this exercise have when done structurally. The next quote is perfect for this because doing such an exercise or practice is not about “fixing” ourselves or trying to “get somewhere”.

“Never doubt yourself; always question yourself. Trust your perfection, yet look to improve.”- Bentinho Massaro

We are enough as we are, but that doesn’t mean we cannot grow.

We are beautiful as we are, but that doesn’t mean we cannot take better care of ourselves.

We are smart as we are, but that doesn’t mean we cannot keep learning.

Learning, reflecting, and growing doesn’t mean we aren’t enough already, but it does mean we can reflect upon our conditioning, our belief system and how we align with our true selves.

If you want to learn more about the practices I do while working, taking care of my daughter and my dogs, follow me on Instagram @consciouslivingwithcarmen

Have a great week!



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